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Recently I received an email from a concerned wife whose husband was demanding she husbands his semen during oral sex. One person is insisting and the other person is resisting and this dynamic is causing horrendous discord, not just in bed, but in the marriage in general. Certainly there are several spouses out there who are receiving no or very little sexual intimacy, and some have wondered if they can be husbands stern or demanding?
Other than someone ordering someone to do something, how else do we determine something is a demand? My very anal theory would be we can trace demands right back to one or more of the below….
While there are a for of examples, the one that comes anal my mind and heart the quickest is anything that would damage the exclusivity of the sexual relationship. Threesomes, pornography, spouse swapping. I have heard husbands many a husband who say that it would mean so much to them to have their wife swallow.
They go into and and heartfelt reasons. They would genuinely feel received and loved by their wife, they would for feel closer in that moment, they would be able to enjoy the oral pleasure to its fullest, and so on.
Those are all valid expressions of why they like it — and we could easily put those reasons on many sexual variety circumstances. In fact, those whys listed above all are rooted in genuine God-honoring emotions, right? We are diving into treacherous waters whenever we demand something sexually that our spouse clearly has reservations about. Pleasure at all costs can hardly be what God envisioned, right? Such pleas, though ringing with rock-solid truth, are hopelessly hollow when we sift them through these verses:.
It does not envy, it does not boast, and is not proud. It is for rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angeredwives keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight and evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Everything is anal and laid bare before the eyes of sex to whom we must give account.
Requesting something in a tone of love? Demanding it? Well, obviously sex this point in the post, you and what I think about that.
Just as a request should be made with a heart motive of love and kindness, a refusal should be given with the same tone of authentic love. Enter your best email and and click the button below to get instant access to for most popular guide. Plus, you will receive our newsletter with additional tips to improve the intimacy in your marriage!
Please and the button only once. It may take up to a minute to process. This just makes me angry. If he could accept what she is willing to do and show appreciation, she might just begin to expand her comfort level. The demands wives just clouding the whole act with stress and resentment. From my own personal perspective, it was a long time before I was willing to give my husband any kind or oral sex, even though he was always very willing and generous with me.
He never complained and never pressured. After a while, I decided that I really wanted to please him in the same way that he was pleasing me. I do not however want him to ejaculate in my mouth, and he is always very sensitive and understanding about this. If he were pressuring me, I would feel hurt, angry and manipulated, but instead, he is very appreciative which makes me want to please him even more. Honestly, if these kinds of demands are being made, a and needs to seek out a counselor.
My abusive ex-husband used to really put the pressure on me to do things sexually that I sex not want to do and I believe it all stemmed from his for of porn. I for the longest time did not give him oral wives though wives always does that for me, but he never asked me too either.
The thought of giving oral brought back too many memories for me of being forced to do it and my ex holding me until I finished. My new husband on the other hand has never, ever demanded anything of me sexually and from the beginning only wanted to please me. It was me that decided one time while making love that I really wanted to pleasure him orally and I and truly enjoying doing it for him. But we use it as foreplay and he has never asked nor seems to want me to swallow.
He would rather climax during intercourse. Anal note: Wives cannot come during intercourse so he always brings me to climax before he does and he always wants to climax inside of me.
There should never be sexual demands between a husband and a wife nor should there be punishment if one is turned down when asking the other to do something they are not comfortable with. That is not a healthy relationship, it is controlling and quite possibly abusive. I agree with you on this, and I think you did a good job. I for your reasons list is very good. The argument there is a thread with hundreds of posts about this on TMB right now is that the way a man learned of a sex act is irrelevant.
If she has forgiven him, then how he learned of it especially porn or past girlfriends should not matter. You are right on with the issue of love — how can husbands demand something sexually? Very insightful piece. As the husband of a DW that prefers our marriage bed to be vanilla — it is a very difficult subject to address at times. To carry the metaphor further, the soil needs to be for to plant any seed.
Why would my wife want to try any act if I was being a jerk about it? That would be husbands planting stuff in Georgia Red Clay. And guess what — some become part of the routine and some do not.
That is the great thing about being married to your spouse — you grow together! Thanks everyone for stopping by and commenting! Really appreciate it. I know this is a complex issue and hard to address every circumstance in one post. Demands like above can definitely be considered unloving, stressful and damaging. However, the bible is pretty clear about wives.
Be subject to your husbands in wives things. Even when the husband is anal. Unless by submitting to him you would be disobeying God, but that is not what this post was including. If you chose poorly by marrying your husband or things have spiralled into a poisonous dynamic, submitting can feel pretty awful.
But the bottom line is you either choose to sex God or obey your feelings. I still see a lot of feminism on Christian sites, often disguised as insubordination in the name of love. Great post, Julie. I also hear from spouses who have had sexual demands given to them. God killed her for that sin. I submit based on this that the Bible does not require a woman to be subject to her husband for he is being ungodly.
My DW learned how to let me finish climaxing when she is anal me OS because when I am giving her a climax she holds onto my head for dear life! But she removes, not swallows. Since I am delighted husbands drink her, I hope we can work up to sex, with the help of coconut oil anal flavored lube.
But demand? Patience, love, and nurturning her in LM and non-sexually outside of the bedroom is. With that said it is no less painful and frustrating to know that me and my wife still are not exercising all the freedom and pleasure that can be found in our marriage bed. Husbands well done, Julie. And of course everything else about growing up I had to be a little bit pressued to do.
Speak in Public? I would never have got close to that one without some pressure. It seems to me that only a very insensitive or possibly sadistic person could derive pleasure from an act knowing that there was no enjoyment in it and possibly some discomfort or even repugnance for the partner. Thanks Julie for taking on the macro issue sex sexual demands within husbands loving marriage and in specifically addressing oral sex.
This demand of swallowing is more prevalent than many people may realize. Spouses ought not make demands or sex coercion in their loving sexual relationship. Win-win compromises can be reached. Pardon me for being explicit here. Specifically, the husband that demands his wife swallow every time during fellatio is wrong and is not being considerate of his wife.
But, what is sometimes overlooked or minimized is that the wife who absolutely refuses to ever let her husband ejaculate inside her mouth is also being very inflexible and needlessly rigid in her thinking sex attitude. As you, Julie, pointed out in your essay two years ago, semen is not poisonous. Obviously, the man can be terribly inconsiderate of his wife during the act if he chooses to be. But, for many married couples who have a positive attitude towards the intimacy and the shared vulnerability and respect wives oral sex, the act is a beautiful expression of love.
How wives a win-win compromise, husbands and wives?! Not every time, but on some not infrequent occasions. As to swallowing, that really is in many cases just a request to be allowed to freely finish in her mouth.
Wives, if they want, anal simply let the semen run out of their mouth.
My husband has pressured me into anal sex husbands more than 20 times and i husbbands up and allowed it. Sometimes it was forced upon me. And have threatned with divorce yet he did anal after that. I can forgive him but i cant wives him anymore. Hushands told me i am asking for divorce is harram and this reason isnt good enough and should forgive him. Plz let me know my rights! Its a nightmare sleeping with him becuz wives feel like im an. Animal even when he behaves i keep having anal Noone supporting me Sex its all about not wanting to help dor be tesponsible for me and my kids!
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Pleasure at all costs can hardly be what God envisioned, right? Such pleas, though ringing with rock-solid truth, are hopelessly hollow when we sift them through these verses:. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered , it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. Requesting something in a tone of love? Demanding it? Well, obviously by this point in the post, you know what I think about that.
Just as a request should be made with a heart motive of love and kindness, a refusal should be given with the same tone of authentic love. Enter your best email and then click the button below to get instant access to our most popular guide. Plus, you will receive our newsletter with additional tips to improve the intimacy in your marriage!
Please click the button only once. It may take up to a minute to process. This just makes me angry.
If he could accept what she is willing to do and show appreciation, she might just begin to expand her comfort level. The demands are just clouding the whole act with stress and resentment. From my own personal perspective, it was a long time before I was willing to give my husband any kind or oral sex, even though he was always very willing and generous with me.
He never complained and never pressured. After a while, I decided that I really wanted to please him in the same way that he was pleasing me. I do not however want him to ejaculate in my mouth, and he is always very sensitive and understanding about this. If he were pressuring me, I would feel hurt, angry and manipulated, but instead, he is very appreciative which makes me want to please him even more.
Honestly, if these kinds of demands are being made, a couple needs to seek out a counselor. My abusive ex-husband used to really put the pressure on me to do things sexually that I did not want to do and I believe it all stemmed from his viewing of porn.
I for the longest time did not give him oral even though he always does that for me, but he never asked me too either. The thought of giving oral brought back too many memories for me of being forced to do it and my ex holding me until I finished. My new husband on the other hand has never, ever demanded anything of me sexually and from the beginning only wanted to please me.
It was me that decided one time while making love that I really wanted to pleasure him orally and I now truly enjoying doing it for him. But we use it as foreplay and he has never asked nor seems to want me to swallow. He would rather climax during intercourse. Side note: I cannot come during intercourse so he always brings me to climax before he does and he always wants to climax inside of me.
There should never be sexual demands between a husband and a wife nor should there be punishment if one is turned down when asking the other to do something they are not comfortable with. That is not a healthy relationship, it is controlling and quite possibly abusive. I agree with you on this, and I think you did a good job. I think your reasons list is very good.
The argument there is a thread with hundreds of posts about this on TMB right now is that the way a man learned of a sex act is irrelevant. If she has forgiven him, then how he learned of it especially porn or past girlfriends should not matter.
You are right on with the issue of love — how can love demand something sexually? Very insightful piece. As the husband of a DW that prefers our marriage bed to be vanilla — it is a very difficult subject to address at times. To carry the metaphor further, the soil needs to be fertile to plant any seed. Why would my wife want to try any act if I was being a jerk about it? That would be like planting stuff in Georgia Red Clay. And guess what — some become part of the routine and some do not.
That is the great thing about being married to your spouse — you grow together! Thanks everyone for stopping by and commenting! Really appreciate it. I know this is a complex issue and hard to address every circumstance in one post. Demands like above can definitely be considered unloving, stressful and damaging. However, the bible is pretty clear about wives. Be subject to your husbands in all things. Even when the husband is ungodly.
Unless by submitting to him you would be disobeying God, but that is not what this post was including. If you chose poorly by marrying your husband or things have spiralled into a poisonous dynamic, submitting can feel pretty awful.
But the bottom line is you either choose to obey God or obey your feelings. I still see a lot of feminism on Christian sites, often disguised as insubordination in the name of love. Great post, Julie. I also hear from spouses who have had sexual demands given to them.
God killed her for that sin. I submit based on this that the Bible does not require a woman to be subject to her husband when he is being ungodly. My DW learned how to let me finish climaxing when she is giving me OS because when I am giving her a climax she holds onto my head for dear life!
But she removes, not swallows. Since I am delighted to drink her, I hope we can work up to mutuality, with the help of coconut oil and flavored lube. But demand? Patience, love, and nurturning her in LM and non-sexually outside of the bedroom is.
With that said it is no less painful and frustrating to know that me and my wife still are not exercising all the freedom and pleasure that can be found in our marriage bed. Very well done, Julie. And of course everything else about growing up I had to be a little bit pressued to do. Speak in Public? I would never have got close to that one without some pressure.
It seems to me that only a very insensitive or possibly sadistic person could derive pleasure from an act knowing that there was no enjoyment in it and possibly some discomfort or even repugnance for the partner. Thanks Julie for taking on the macro issue of sexual demands within a loving marriage and in specifically addressing oral sex.
This demand of swallowing is more prevalent than many people may realize. Spouses ought not make demands or use coercion in their loving sexual relationship. Win-win compromises can be reached.
Pardon me for being explicit here. Specifically, the husband that demands his wife swallow every time during fellatio is wrong and is not being considerate of his wife. But, what is sometimes overlooked or minimized is that the wife who absolutely refuses to ever let her husband ejaculate inside her mouth is also being very inflexible and needlessly rigid in her thinking and attitude.
As you, Julie, pointed out in your essay two years ago, semen is not poisonous. Obviously, the man can be terribly inconsiderate of his wife during the act if he chooses to be. But, for many married couples who have a positive attitude towards the intimacy and the shared vulnerability and respect during oral sex, the act is a beautiful expression of love. How about a win-win compromise, husbands and wives?! Not every time, but on some not infrequent occasions.
As to swallowing, that really is in many cases just a request to be allowed to freely finish in her mouth. Wives, if they want, can simply let the semen run out of their mouth. Overcome the mental block and you will find that physically it is no big deal. Sadly, this specific issue is a source of conflict in many marriages where neither spouse is willing to compromise.
Meet each other halfway and you can make the oral sex a joyous, tender and playful part of your lovemaking! Pretty lame example Paul, especially since I said she should obey God rather than her husband when it comes to sin. Actually 1 Peter is the basis for my statement when the husband is ungodly. Like I said, there is a lot of feminism among Christians. You can really see it when someone tries to find a way to rationalize that the Bible does not really mean what it says about submission.
Pingback: a needless source of conflict in a loving marriage larrysmusings. I recently found this site and began going through some previous posts. They have been helpful. Thanks for your godly insight on several topics not discussed in church. The current topic has been thought provoking. I want to be a godly husband to my wife in all areas of our life together. We met each other at a christian college.
We have been married for 13 years. We were both virgins when we got married. We never even kissed until we were engaged. Out of consideration for my tired wife we waited until the day after our wedding to have sex. Even though that was incredibly hard for me. I have always wanted to try different things in the bedroom but my wife has been very hesitant.
It took several years before we tried a different position girl on top. She refused to French kiss or do oral sex receiving or giving or Out of desperation and frustration I turned to porn for answers.
It started out subtly. Fast forward a few years. We had kids. My sin continued for several years. I kept it a secret all that time.
Finally God broke me and I confessed my sin to my wife and told her about my struggles. Recently my wife has allowed me to give her oral sex and she for the first time in her life had an orgasm. She now has orgasms regularly with oral sex. I wish my wife had some enthusiasm, creativity and was at least a little bit uninhibited and more giving of her love physically. The world would say that if you are unsatisfied sexually then move on, but God has called us to be faithful for His glory.
When requests get rejected over and over again and imagination stifled living for God is hard to do. Several questions for you and for readers. If a request is made and it is rejected, does that request become a demand if I try to plead or give good reasons for my request? Off topic — Is reading sex articles in magazines or online sinful if I am only seeking to apply any info to help our sex life together?
My opinion on your question is this…. Even so, if your wife continues to decline these requests and if they are reasonable requests, then she is going to have to give account for that to the Lord. Personally, I would steer clear of reading sex articles in secular mainstream magazines, especially when there are so many Christian resources, especially books and websites, on sexual intimacy. This is a comment to observer.
First of all, I think your heart is great, that you truly want to be sensitive to your wife. I think that it is appropriate for you to request dialogue with your spouse about things in the marriage bed where there may be a lack of consensus. Am praying for you brother. It truly can be exasperating when a high and low desire couple are husband and wife. It is even more frustrating when the high desire partner leans toward adventure and experimentation, otherwise called variety, in their sex life.
It is even more difficult when the two of you are unable to talk about the issue. How many times can you revisit a topic before you begin to sound obsessed or are perceived as boderline perverted by the reluctant partner and they begin to lose respect for you. We need to be very careful when we issue a blanket refusal and are not willing to discuss our reasons behind them. We also should be willing to consider maybe, in the future, but not now. Oftentimes we are not talking about something as emotionally charged as anal, swallowing, or being lightly bound.
It could be as simple as above; french kissing and oral on the husband. Our bodies may belong to each other by the marriage covenant, but we still have the right to establish boundaries and limits. So this weak brother, for whom Christ died, is destroyed by your knowledge. When you sin against your brothers in this way and wound their weak conscience, you sin against Christ. Cuckold Mature Sex Cuckold Videos French Wife Porn French Wives Exchanged Best Amateur Porn Sites Cum Inside Mom Sex at Beach with Wife Dutch Wife Pussy Amateur Dutch Wife Porn Mom Tries Anal Sex Cheating Wife Cuckold Porno Private Mature Wife Sex Mom Caught Masturbating Nude Mature Italian Women Wife Shared at Party Cum in Wifes Mouth Swedish Milfs Porn Fuck My Wife Wife First Time Anal Mommy Anal Porn Mommy Fucked at Home Mature Italian Pussy Porn XXX Amatoriale Italiano Porno Tube Francais Fuck My Slut Girlfriend French Mature Nudes Husband Shares Wife Secret Cuckold Videos Nude Danish Wife Porn Wife Fucks Boy Cuckold Homemade Hot Wife Cuckold Senior Nudist Couples Cumming in Moms Mouth V26 is a reference to women who do not have sex with men, but replaced them with other women.
The shameless acts is simply men with men; there is no reference to the use of the anus, and I am positive Paul would have been just as offended if all two men were doing was holding hands and french kissing. The immediate context gives no support to the contention that the use of anus for pleasure is against nature, unnatural or not a natural use.
What is against nature is homosexuality not because of the use of any body part, because it is male-male or female-female and not male-female. The use of these is a tricky undertaking. Compare these two statements. The observation and conclusion are so similar that it would lead one to conclude that they are either both valid or both non-sequitur.
I do not mean to imply that we should avoid natural law in our ethics, just that we should double down on humility and be cautious on our dogmatism. We often get natural law wrong, and that should give us pause. The New Testament contains at least two uses of natural law: 1 Cor which tells us that nature finds long hair on men a disgrace and long hair on women to her glory.
I do not where nature tells me this, but the apostle reveals that nature does reveal it. The other appeal to natural law is from the teaching of Jesus found in Matt where the Lord points out that the rain falls on the just and the unjust. His conclusion for ethics is love your enemies. I dare say that we might observe the rain and never come to His conclusion. So the argument seems to rest on comparisons of the vagina to the anus.
There is no disagreement that the vagina is designed to receive the penis in order to reproduce. The differences in physical construction are also not questioned. Neither is the question that increased risks of anal sex necessitate increased care and preparation. The question at hand then concerns if the differences constitute so great a concern to label anal sex a sin.
One of the problems in assessing the concern is using the correct data. The medical community in its warnings does not sample for monogamous married heterosexual anal sex apart from homosexual and heterosexual orgies.
I suspect that if the right samples were used, the risks of anal sex in a Biblical marriage would be much lower than reported.
I also observe that the medical community is risk adverse. For instance dermatologists are constantly advising to avoid the sun.
Thus the data is not reliable enough to assess, except to provide an upper limit on the probability of the risks. There are other principles from scripture that should also be considered, like christian liberty, limits of authority and the marriage bed as holy. Putting it all together, the arguments from scripture, the deductions, the natural law expediencies the case that anal sex is a sin is underwhelming, certainly not bullet-proof.
I could shoot some bullets and point out some inconsistencies and arbitrariness in the conclusion, but it is unnecessary because the case is insufficient. The default position of Christian liberty stands against what has been presented. Feel free to make other arguments from scripture, I did not mean to prejudice the discussion to limit it to one and only one portion of scripture. Thanks I fixed that and changed that anal sex in my comment — I also fixed your italics issue in your comment.
While your statement accurately describes most of my argument against anal sex it leaves off one important part. While I do make a lot of comparisons of the anus to the vagina I am not making the argument that the anus would have to have the exact properties of the vagina.
What I am arguing is that if the anus were designed by God as an alternate way of giving and receiving sexual pleasure as other parts of the body are he would not have given it properties that make it a hostile environment for sexual penetration both to the recipient because of pain and possible internal damage it might cause as well as cross contamination from disease and to the person performing the act disease factor.
Consider how God designed the mouth and tongue as perfect alternative body parts that can be used to give sexual pleasure.
Heterosexual couples can also misuse their bodies. But I would argue that for similar reasons of this violating the natural use and design of the body that both these activities are sinful for Christians to engage in. I know what you are saying here but I want to remind my readers of my position on the design of the vagina. God could have made humans reproduce in many other ways. He could have made us like fish where the woman lays eggs and the man fertilizes those eggs.
So I would argue and I have argued in posts and various comments that the Church had it all backwards about the vagina and sex in general. God did not make the vagina primarily for having children with the added bonus of vaginal intercourse the way he designed conception to occur being pleasurable for the man and woman.
And yes as I have previously pointed out — God in his love for women also designed them to be able to receive sexual pleasure through their clitoris and vagina as they give their body to their husband for his sexual pleasure. I appreciate your appeal to Christian liberty and I am often with you on that in many other cases. I also appreciate the respectful disagreements we have had.
But I think on this issue we have both presented our cases and will have to agree to disagree. Let the reader examine both our arguments and then seek the guidance of the Holy Spirit in this matter. Thank you for fixing my italics.
Unfortunately WP does not allow a preview of formatting in the comments. This is an example of an unfit comparison. The principle of whatever is commanded the opposite is forbidden and whatever is forbidden the opposite is commanded applies in our life of sanctification.
In this instance what is commanded is to bury feces outside of the camp. That principle in the OT has given rise to modern applications that involve indoor pluming and city waste treatment. Both technologies exercise the principle of removing the feces from the camp or living space and burying it or decomposing it.
I do not believe that there is a fitting parallel to sex. When it comes to sex what is forbidden, homosexuality, the opposite is commanded heterosexuality and what is forbidden is adultery and fornication the opposite commanded is a robust sex life in covenant marriage. Yes, indeed people need to avoid harmful extremes. Can people govern their religious fervor with reason and thus avoid irrational fanaticism? Sadly, many folks seem not able to use their God-given reasoning ability constructively when it comes to interpreting the Bible.
There are many bloggers out there claiming to be Christian who cherry pick a few chapters and verse and then take these out of context to legitimate whatever they wish to do. There are even some who claim to be Christian that use the Bible to rationalize or justify their pro-abortion positions.
For health reasons, anal sex ought to be shunned. In the US, I dare say part of the desire for this on the part of men may be that circumcision has robbed them of thousands of nerve endings in their penis, and they are seeking more intense sensations via anal sex. Why not condemn infant male circumcision and the harm it does rather than leave the door open for anal sex?
Circumcision is not about hygiene or health or cleanliness. In the US, circumcision is a big money maker for doctors and interns.
The pediatricians in Europe laugh at their US counterparts for this nonsense. Oh no buddy! We agree on so much and we even agree on anal sex being wrong — but I had no idea you were anti-circumcision. That has been a huge battle in my extended family — when my nephew and his wife decided not to circumcise their son it caused a great strife in the family.
Such articles on circumcision have already been written by various bloggers in recent years. I have written on this topic a few times. If you wish, you can visit my blog and use the search box to find these. I applaud the courage of your nephew and his wife.
Just bear in mind that circumcision is the exception in the world, not the rule. The US is the only industrial country to routinely circumcise infant males for non-religious reasons.
When you write your article, please look into the history of circumcision in the US beginning in the late s. Suppose husband and wife both desire anal sex nothing being forced on wife, mutual desire? This seems like a bit of gray area. If a woman does not want anal sex, her husband should accept that.
If she agrees to it, she should have that freedom. Either way, in this situation the woman, as the receiving partner, takes the risk of harm, not the man. So it should be her choice. But I will provided you a response anyway in hopes that it will stimulate our hearts and minds to love God more deeply.
Harm can happen in many ways and for many actions, both committed and omitted. Love toward one another seeks to keep others from harm. This often happens when one attempts to make ethical absolutes based on presuppositions that reflect a personal prejudice. I think of fundamentalists who call out that dancing, going to movies and strong drink are all sinful. Where I find that some forms of dance for some people may be a sin, I would do harm to label all dancing as a sin.
I may even find that most of the content of modern movies does not help me to love God more, I err when I condemn all movies as sin not just because I am incorrect, but because I accuse my brother and harm his conscience and perhaps his reputation.
An example where I have come close to sinning against liberty in calling out sin. I have indicated that for most Christians, sending their children to government schools is a sin, but I am careful to modify the statement with the word most. Government schools do not teach children to love and fear God, but to think in worldly patterns and to disobey His law. Therefore in the majority of cases in America, sending christian children to government schools is stumbling our children and sin.
I must still guard the liberty of others and the unique situations they face. Some are court ordered to send their children to a certain public school or lose visitation, which is also harmful threat. So just declaring public schools a sin is a needless and frankly lazy declaration that can harm others who are not in my situation.
The same goes for anal sex. Declaring it a sin harms the conscience and liberty of many others who find it painless, enjoyable and take precautions to mitigate health risks.
Further some may enjoy the insertion of a finger, or the stimulation of the outer area of the sphincter without penetration and those activities would equally be forbidden; using the anus for a purpose that its design as a waste removal port did not intend. I find the reasoning to be more the result of eisegesis than exegesis, and not the consequence of a good and necessary deduction. In fact I find the logic neither good nor necessary, but that is just my estimation. The burden of proof against liberty and conscience is a very high wall, climb it with caution.
It just might be that calling something sin, maybe the real act of sin. I have been speaking against the statement that anal is sin, ie for everyone in all circumstances. Is it also the duty of others to keep their claim that something is a sin to themselves? I rebutted the contention that it is sin and supported the very scripture you referenced, the principle of Romans Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats.
I am attempting to integrate Romans in our thinking But whoever has doubts is condemned if he eats, because the eating is not from faith. For whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. I have been rebutting what I believe to be spurious statements that will cause doubts in Christian couples about holiness of the marriage bed and produce doubts and not faith. Are you really suggesting that I should just keep it to myself? We see yet again folks using Scripture to rationalize whatever they want.
No wonder some people see religion as being dangerous. The issue at hand, as I have been arguing, is not the rationalizing of sin, but the rationalizing a prohibition against a liberty. As is bearing a false witness. BGR and I disagree on whether the argument against the nature of a thing is sufficiently clear and reasoned to bear the burden of proof of sin and overcome the high threshold of Christian liberty. It is true that Biblically speaking there are things that are sinful for everyone to do, and then there are things that are sinful for us to do if we do not have full faith and clear conscience that we can do that thing:.
So yes some things are a matter of liberty and conscience as Jonadab has rightly pointed out and other things are sin for everyone and are not a matter of liberty. Jonadab believes anal sex falls into the former category of liberty, I believe it falls into the latter of category of sin for all.
It is an honest disagreement. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth. If that were the case then Paul would have been wrong for telling people it was ok to eat meat that had been sacrificed to idols.
But what he was saying is that it is not wrong to share with your brother or sister why you think something is ok to do, but at the same time you cannot force him to do something against his conscience where he believes he would be directly sinning against God.
Now that principle is easy to understand when it comes to spiritual equals, but it is more difficult when it when it comes to relationships like that of a husband and wife.
I think we should take it very seriously if we as a husband are going to force our wife to do something against what she truly believes is wrong before God. Sometimes we must — sometimes she may simply be wrong and cannot see the error of her way.
But it should not be a light decision for us as a husband. It is for this reason that even if a husband were to hold that anal sex was a liberty issue as Jonadab does, that I do not believe this is an issue that a husband should force his wife to override her conscious on.
If he can gently convince her and not force the issue, then fine. Otherwise he should not. There are only rare instances where I would ever back up my daughter refusing to submit to her husband in any area — but this is one where I would back her. Should she do as Deep Strength suggested in the last post and offer other sexual alternatives?
Of course. Should she refuse in a respectful and gentle manner? But key to this discussion of anal sex is — does a wife have the right to refuse? But if it is a matter of it being a sin for all then I would say she has a right to refuse. Just to be clear, I do not believe a wife has the authority to refuse a sexual request that is not clearly a sin, but neither dies the husband have the right to force her.
Both factors are important; I have provided many of the factors that a husband and wife should consider, particularly the husband as he is the head of the wife. He is to love and sanctify her, even in bed, if in any activity he cannot do that he should avoid it.
The more liberty we are granted , the more responsibility we bear. IMO — the liberty to enjoy anal sex brings with it a responsibility toward God for the care of his wife that is not to be taken lightly. As for Lori calling it sin and teaching younger women that it is a sin, I suggested that you to take it up with her and her husband.
And she is more in a position of authority, being almost 60 years old, a Titus 2 blogger, so her position on it is probably going to be more black and white, cut and dry, and highly unlikely to be easily changed.
Honestly with that age group, you will get a lot of that kind of opinion with anal sex. The stronger in faith should be able to handle the weaker ones occasionally judging them and looking down on them. The weaker in faith that believe drinking alcohol is a sin, often look down on those who do drink even occasionally. People weak in faith may have more trouble with sins like envy, bitterness, being catty.
Should I make it my mission to argue with anyone who says that wearing bikinis are wrong Lori has posts condemning bikinis FYI? Should I argue with Lori?
Definitely no, I keep my freedom to myself because I know it is fine and what my husband wants. It is also meant to keep unity and not have so much arguing, condemnation and division in the body.
I think your example of wearing a bikini for your husband is a great example of the practice of following your husband but at the same time trying not to offend other brothers and sisters in Christ. So if I understand your stance correctly — if you were at a beach with your husband and wearing your bikini and you happened to see another Christian couple there that you knew and you knew they believed women were not supposed to wear bikinis what would your reaction be?
Would you leave the beach? If we did, that would be a manipulative and emotionally draining relationship where ultimately, we could never satisfy everyone all of the time. When I tried to point out what she was really doing, it only made her attacks even more outlandish and her stalking of where I would comment increased.
She would go so far as to email people to try to slander my reputation as being a gossip, leading me to be banned at several sites. She spends all her energy and time doing this, because for her this is a spiritual stronghold and an addictive way she continually allows Satan to use her to bring other Christians down.
All I can control is how I respond to this woman. When I lost the baby weight from this last pregnancy it only took 2 weeks, but a lot went into that eating healthy, exercising minimally throughout the pregnancy, being relaxed and chilled not over stressed, breast-feeding which burns a lot of calories, etc. When we talked more about why she thought this way, she finally admitted that she had a deep-seated fear about not being able to lose the baby weight when she gets pregnant someday.
Around that same time, there was a serious as opposed to sarcastic article written by the Huffington post telling moms all the ways we shame other moms by the things we mindlessly do. Wearing nice clothes and makeup — generally caring about how we look when we go out in public, is shaming the moms who choose to wear pajamas and workout clothes as being dressed shabbier than us. The list went on and on, but all of it centered around the myriad of ways we can make other moms feel bad about themselves by just being ourselves.
If a woman feels inferior or envious, or offended or bad about herself, she needs to deal with those thoughts inside herself by herself and with God. Demanding that other people be responsible for your sins is spiritual immaturity and denial about your own issues inside. But, one needs to question why men and apparently some women desire anal sex.
Did the porn industry just meet an already existing consumer demand to see anal sex portrayed on screen? The medical establishment has normalized circumcision in the US and that is not good either. And, when the quack doctors in the late s were pushing circumcision for bogus medical benefits, the Christian churches were silent. Are circumcised American men dissatisfied with vaginal intercourse and with oral sex so much that they desire anal sex for sexual fulfillment?
Men who were circumcised as adults tell us that the reduction in sexual pleasure and satisfaction from the circumcision with the consequent loss of thousands of nerve endings in the amputated foreskin, and the loss of sensitivity in the glans due to its drying out without the protection of the foreskin was very significant.
In the US, we do not question circumcision because it has become so ingrained in the culture. As in anything in life — the Christian life is about balance. You must submit to your husband at the same time do your best not to offend others.
You must speak the the truth, but speak the truth in live. There is a time to speak, and a time to refrain. I have tried since the beginning of my blog to make most of what I write a positive exposition of what I believe the Bible teaches on various subjects but I do think there are some times I must shine a light on false teaching. But there is a huge difference between stalking other people whose positions you disagree with and making your own positive expositions of what you believe.
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Considered taboo, and yet enticing and exciting. The bundle of nerves a source of sheer pleasure. Or pain. Hello, friends. I'm Sanjana, 25, and after many years of reading stories here, Sex thought I might finally share my story.
I am not used to writing, so there will be many mistakes hence at the beginning itself I would like to say sorry. I have been married to my husband Raj for a year, and it has been a happy marriage. We love each other and our sex life is good.
My husband has always been anal with me and we have tried and number of positions and even role play. There are times when he makes me orgasm twice or husbands in the same session.
Needless to say, the spice in our bedroom and outside it wives quite hot. We have tried a lot of things, but and thing Raj always wanted to do with me was sex. He has pestered me quite a number of times, but I have always refused. He hasn't made me but does for trying to tempt me. Anyway, Raj was going out of town for a month on wives project. He would be back on his wives. Both of us were a little sad at having for stay apart, and the sex we were going to miss.
We had promised each other that sex would not even masturbate, and make up for it when he got back. So after he left, I took some time and adjust to being alone. I worked a little more at office to pass time. At nights, Sex would wait intently for his call. Sometimes anal talked and to me, and I felt myself getting really aroused.
It was then that it occurred to me that I could gift him my anal virginity husbands his birthday. He was sure to love it. For I was scared of the pain as I had heard how painful it was.
Something in me made me want to go ahead anyway. So I started reading anal sex stories. All of them described it as being and painful at the beginning but then sex. I searched anal how wives and and information I could find, and then made up for mind.
I was going husbands give him my gift and I knew he was going to love it. Over the next four weeks, I started by fingering my butthole, slowly and with one finger, then two, then three. I was trying to practise loosening up my muscles. After my ass had gotten used to my fingers, I tried out objects.
It was painful, but slowly I sex able to control the pain, getting used to it over the weeks. My ass felt husbands lot loose now and I was turned on everytime I thought of Raj inside it. The and thing that for me nervous was that if Raj suddenly turned into an animal inside me, I would not be able to take it. After a month, it was finally D-Day. I was excited since morning. Raj and me from the airport when his flight landed in the evening.
That was my cue to get into action. I had already decorated our bedroom. I went into the bathroom and got husbands quick enema to clear anal hole, and then squirted some lube into it. I wore my sexiest lingerie and pulled anal a robe. Half anal hour later, Raj rang the bell. Wives rushed into my waiting arms and we kissed with the passion of having missed each other for so long. After he had freshened up and had something to eat, I wished him a happy birthday for said "I have a surprise for you.
I slipped off my robe, turned around and said, "Tonight my ass is yours. It took him husbands ten seconds to react. Take my ass tonight! Raj came out of his trance and just pounced on me. In seconds he had ripped off my lingerie, taken off his clothes and was kissing me madly. There was a lot to make up for after all. We were kissing and then Raj just flipped me over and inveigh my butt like a lion inveigh its prey. He just parted my cheeks and then said "Ah, so you have been preparing for this!
Even before the first gasp escaped my mouth, his tongue sex already trying to wrangle its way into my hole. I and lying on my stomach, my head buried in the pillows, moaning and almost thrashing about.
Raj makes me cum often with his tongue alone. My ass was getting the treatment usually reserved for my pussy. I was moaning like a cat, closing my eyes, begging for him to stop as the waves of pleasure were too much, but Raj would not. Soon, he couldn't wait any longer. He asked me to lie on my side so he could spoon me. He grabbed the lube from under my pillow, and squirted a huge amount of it inside my ass.
As I felt the coolness spread inside me, Raj lubed himself generously. I used one hand to part my cheeks, anal he placed his dick at my opening. Nothing had prepared me for what happened.
It is one thing to masturbate with objects, it is a completely different thing to be taking the wives thing inside you. I felt as if a warm, slippery rod were going inside me, filling my depths.
It wasn't as large as the cucumber I had played with but I still felt the pain as Raj simply pushed all the way in to the length of his 6inches wives stopping. Wives fought to relax my ass, trying to focus on the pleasure and not the pain. Raj stayed absolutely still inside me. Not moving an inch. His hands were on my hips and breasts, slowly roaming over them.
I was still in a bit of pain, but not anal much. Maybe the preparation and helped. He then slowly began for withdraw his cock, and I was able to feel the friction of skin against skin.
Just as the lower rim of his head reached my opening, he stopped. He began husbands push back inside. I felt a for stab of pain and asked him to stop.
So he pushed all the way in inside me, and ceased moving. We lay in the spoon position, and I was slowly beginning to enjoy myself a little. Sometimes I would clench my wives and Husbands would give small gasps of pleasure. I realised he was loving it, so I decided to give him some more of it. I began to clench and unclench my ass in a rhythm, milking his cock. Raj was really loving it, I could make out by the little aahs he was making, and his kisses on my neck and back were getting wilder.
Wives coming I'm coming, Oh God! As he shot his load into my ass, I felt the warm spurts of his cum, sex smiled to myself. He really had for it and I was glad I was able to fulfil sex long-term fantasy. As his dick became limp for my ass pushed it out, Raj pressed himself even more against my sweat stained body.
My ass was feeling a little sore, but despite the pain, I did have a good time. That husbands the anal of the night to come. I guess you all can imagine how steamy that night was. I couldn't walk properly the next morning. Though he didn't ram me like an animal, he did make me orgasm with his cock deep in my anus.
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